Dating someone with a troubled past
But if we are holding the people we date as responsible for their actions in the past, aren’t we sort of putting their past into the present? ◊♦◊As with most of my articles, I don’t profess to have all the answers.
While I understand we are to be intelligent and use their past or story to inform us of who someone is, was, or could be; at what point do they stop being that drunken kid that got DUI’s?
Everyone goes through a different recovery process when a relationship ends.
One woman told me she now freaks out if a relationship escalates, and she tends to run away, leaving the situation because she couldn't handle a serious meltdown again.
Here are six truths to help still your heart, quiet the lies, and proceed with compassionate caution and wisdom in a relationship with someone who has a sexual history. Whether you measure up to anyone else or not, if you buy into the lie that love should be quantified, you destroy real intimacy.
When you measure your lovability by trying to quantify your sexuality, you diminish your humanity.
The one who has his or her own sexual history faces their own challenges.
The twin emotions of judged when you feel the weight of your partner’s regret and struggle to process what their sins mean for you.
Although some people born into poverty, neglect or abuse (we can call them "Troubled Past" individuals for short) turn things around and find their way into mental health and success-filled lives (we can call these rare people "Good Future" individuals), the odds are certainly stacked against them.